Is it just me, or have all/the vast majority of the people you've dated been bi?

submitted by usehername from (self.Bisexuals)

Everyone I've ever dated/had a serious crush on has been bi, and in every single case, I didn't know they were bi before the feelings developed. It could be a coincidence, because bi people are so common, but I can't help but think there's something else there. Anyone else have a similar experience?

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[–]PatsyStone 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

My only girlfriend is functionally bisexual (she identifies as a lesbian now and is married, but I know for a fact she's voluntarily had sex with men in the past.) I managed to find a bisexual man when neither of us were out, so... yes?

I do think we're more likely to date each other- we have similar problems and a similar little corner of society that we exist in (at least where I live.) We have shared experiences and we can relate to each other. That's what relationships are built on.

With my bi boyfriend, I knew the minute I met him that we were fundamentally the same. I didn't know what it was, but we were immediately drawn to each other. There were a lot of weirdnesses and hang ups I didn't need to explain to him because he already understood.

[–]usehername[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Me dating bisexuals has nothing to do with being in a similar "corner" of society. Where I live, there is no LGB groups of any sort. I think my high school may have had an LGBT club or something like that, but neither I nor anyone I dated/was interested in was a part of it.

There were a lot of weirdnesses and hang ups I didn't need to explain to him because he already understood.

Can you go into more detail about this?

[–]dgsf 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

statistically bisexuals aren't actually that common. we're only a fraction of a percent more common than gays and lesbians (combined)

[–]usehername[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We also have the highest closet rates and a culture of myths obfuscating what bisexuality really is.

[–]PriestTheyCalledHim 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes.