Disgusting with OSA

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[–]clitoriana 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, of course it's psychological, but I think I do have waxing and waning attraction and consider that part of the "bi-cycle" - I always kinda pictured my inherent attraction to men as a broken, flickering neon sign

And yeah duh it'd SUCK to be some man's little wifey!! I'd be so pissed and miserable all the time if I actually got stuck in that role. The conflicting desires of liking a guy and wanting to take care of him vs the knowledge of male and female socialization and the almost inescapable nature of patriarchy makes me crazy. There are two wolves inside me etc. Sometimes this is distressing, most of the time it's funny. And if that's how it is for me, obviously I should avoid dealing too closely with men because it would never be healthy for either of us and again, I'd prefer a woman instead anyway.

Are you suspecting I might be gay or something? Because I know what you mean about LGs saying they aren't repulsed, just completely uninterested, but that's not me. Lesbians don't get actually physically turned on by men, lesbians don't ogle men and fantasize about sex with them, so, despite how weird this all seems to sound to you, bisexuality is the only option left. I've already spent my time in the confused "Am I a lesbian or just a man-hater?" camp, been there done that got the t-shirt.

[–]usehername 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I think I do have waxing and waning attraction and consider that part of the "bi-cycle"

I don't experience that. What do you think that is? Is it correlated to your menstrual cycle? Do you think it's biological?

And yeah duh it'd SUCK to be some man's little wifey!!

Then why would you say this?:

he cute and I wanna bake him cookies and be his wifey

I am really not trying to be rude just trying to understand where you're coming from.

Are you suspecting I might be gay or something?

No, I just mentioned the repulsion thing because if L&G are often not repulsed, then it's odd that you are repulsed even though you are capable of being attracted to the opposite sex.

[–]clitoriana 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ok. Some of us do! I have no idea, the menstrual cycle is a possibility, I've actually seen a few bi women here and there suggest that. It's not like there are any studies on this so it's just one idea.

I already explained that I have conflicting desires and the nature of my attraction to men is, I guess, capricious. I know you aren't trying to be rude, and I don't perceive you as rude at all, but I have learned to just accept all this for what it is because it doesn't matter in the long run. Yeah it's worth exploring/trying to understand if you have apparently never encountered it before but I've been through these questions and possibilities with myself alone and with other bi women like me in a febfem group so I'm kinda over it all.

I don't consider it all that odd. Even straight women talk about being repulsed (or just grossed out) by men/male anatomy at times.