Why does bisexuality get de-legitimized so much?

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[–]PenseePansy 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I think that it comes down to monosexism.

Basically, because most people (heterosexuals and homosexuals) are monosexual-- attracted exclusively to one sex-- they make the assumption that sexual orientation itself is inherently monosexual. Not just for them, but by definition. Therefore, bisexuality cannot be a sexual orientation, which means... it doesn't exist. So all evidence to the contrary must be explained away. By recasting bisexuals as either straight or gay, and their motivation for bisexual behavior as anything BUT sexual orientation.

Also, at least in this one respect, heterosexuals and homosexuals usually stick together: they may not agree on much else, but share a tendency to be biased in favor of their mutual sexuality... and against our own.

[–]usehername 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

most people (heterosexuals and homosexuals) are monosexual-- attracted exclusively to one sex-- they make the assumption that sexual orientation itself is inherently monosexual

Bisexuals are also guilty of the reverse of this.

[–]PatsyStone 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You can see that with the superstraight movement. Their big innovation is to tell trans people "I'm sorry, I'm not capable of being attracted to you, it's not possible for me, I'm superstraight." I pointed out to a gay guy on the main sub that that fucks over bis and he didn't have an answer for me.

"Superbi" can't use that reasoning to get out of attraction to trans people, the messaging these people are sending to trans is that they should target bi since bis can't say no.

[–]usehername 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It doesn't fuck over bis, it just doesn't include them. Or, you could go with MarkJefferson's interpretation.

[–]MarkJefferson 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think the Supersexualities were about only being attracted to people who identify as their birth sex. That doesn't leave out Bisexuals at all.

This is what the Lord creator of SuperStraight said in the original tik tok video:

I'm SuperStraight! I only date the opposite gender; Women- that are born women.

The Bi version would simply be:

I'm SuperBi! I only date the opposite and same gender; Women- that are born women. Men- that are born men.

Done. No trans included. I think many Supers misinterpreted the original video and needlessly projected their own personalized desires on to it. And many Bi's(myself included), already feeling chronically left out of many other things, automatically went along with other people's flawed interpretations, all too ready to be left out in the cold again. The video and info about the progenitor of the movement being scrubbed and gaslit away didn't help matters.

So you can't say I'm transphobic now, because that's just my sexuality!

The fact is, that there is what being a SuperSexual means. NO dating delusional TRANS.... and possibly crazy enbies?(one can hope)

P.S. Yeah... they can easily identify out of Trans to get a chance at Bi's. But we know they won't because they are stubborn af narcissists and will lose their biggest sexual turn-on; Pretending to be the opposite sex.