I remember some spectacular misogyny from accounts claiming to be lesbians on the old DroptheT Reddit sub, one psycho claimed bisexual women couldn't be trusted because semen survives for six days inside the vagina and you never know. Who were those people really? Would they express those sentiments in other contexts? People speak and behave differently based on what they're doing and who they're talking to.

I've always hit it off with lesbians and gotten along with the ones I know irl, but I've always been kept at a certain distance. I've never been called dirty or treated as less than them though!

The lesbian community exists to facilitate lifelong monogamous relationships between women, and whether you're invited in reflects how much faith they have that you can assist with that goal. From my vantage point a lot of lesbians get treated poorly within their own community because they are seen as impeding that goal, or their needs and issues are ignored in favor of the community's commitment to... well... commitment.

Let's not forget that gays and lesbians often have a hard time fitting in within their own communities and can be abused and treated with disdain by each other.