Yeah no shit. Most people are straight. That alone makes same sex dating really difficult.
This is more of a rant but over on drop the T there's a lot of people saying things like this because they're irritated by their bi friends social media posts for pride. Okay. I get that. I understand that a lot of people who claim to be bisexual are just spicy straight girls who kissed a girl once on a dare. I get it. I'm annoyed with them too.
But I'm getting real tired of people using our dating history as a way to say we aren't actually bisexual. If that were the case we could look at every closeted gay person as not actually gay because the had exclusively hetero relationships before coming out.
I live in the bible belt, and again, most people are straight. Couple that with the fact that some lesbians are either: incredibly biphobic "bI WomEN cAnT pOSsiBLy lOVe wOmEN tHE wAY I dO!!!111!!1" Not to mention all the "tainted by dick" and "bi girls are flaky and unfaithful" comments. Or, they just prefer to date other lesbians. The latter I completely understand. But in either case, it whittles down the dating pool of potential girlfriends even further. Yet people on drop the T act like we have any control over that.
I'm just tired. Like. "Has only been in hetero relationships" is, 90% of the time, a matter of circumstance. They act like it's some kind of gotcha when they quote that study which says most bisexuals end up in long term hetero relationships. I reiterate: no shit. We like both men and women. Most people are straight. A lot of LGs are either biphobic or want to date other LGs. Of course the majority of us end up het paired. Use your fucking brains.
And there's also homophobia we experience when we DO try to find same sex partners. But apparently we're all fakers.
Edited to add: in addition to the LGs that don't want us, other bisexuals are the most likely to be closeted. So we can barely even find each other.
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