I'm not a fan of being called tomboy for a couple of reasons. 1) When men call me that it sounds juvenile since I'm a grown woman. 2) It's another way of telling me I'm "not like other girls because I 'like to get dirty'[I do handyman work...] while most "girls" don't"(I've had men tell me that and it made me uncomfortable, I'm just like any other women, nothing special or different) 3) Women in my family use it to call me "weird"/different or to imply I must be secretly a lesbian for being as single for as long as I was (I didn't mind being single at all lol)

This article explains my feelings better: Here’s Why I Won’t Call My Surfing, Skateboarding, Motorcycle-Riding Daughter A ‘Tomboy’

Snippet:

We used to call girls like Emilia ‘tomboys.’ But I hate that word, because it implies that a girl (or woman, for that matter) who does not conform to girl-coded cultural stereotypes is not only not really a girl, but somehow a kind of a boy. It tells girls (and boys, and women, and men) that there is a right way of being a girl, and a wrong way of being a girl, and if you’re the ‘wrong’ kind of girl, then actually you’re more of a boy. That’s messed up, when you think about it. And that is why that I told her that I would never call her a tomboy. I told her that I would never call her a ‘tomboy’ because I didn’t like comparing her to boys. I told her that I didn’t like thinking of things as ‘boy things’ and ‘girl things’ and that I certainly didn’t like any suggestion that ‘boy things’ were somehow better. I told her that there was a long history in the world of ‘girl things’ being treated as less important than ‘boy things’ and that that was a problem for everyone, and not just girls.

Do you find if people can't "identify" you that they get anxious, or is it just curiousity?

Mostly curiosity or...

I've had men ask me if I'm lesbian, then when I say no, they ask me if I'm single...They try to "gauge" me. 😶 Had some ladies flirting too lol or they're like "I'm bi/lesbian" right off the bat and try to relate with me in friendly way--not always flirting haha. Idk what it isss man. I think I'm just a little eccentric and it's hard for them to tell what I am.