I'm going to do my very best to dodge a repetition of my recent participation on this topic elsewhere, and hopefully just provide perhaps some framework or prompts to further the discussion for OP's goal.

I also think it's possible for a fetish to be so strong it overrides one's sexual orientation, so I'm conflicted.

Fetishes have caused people to volitionally amputate their own limbs. Apotemnophilia describes that sexual motivation, but there also appear to be other, non-sexual psychopathologies that can cause such a desire. Acrotomophilia is the counterpart to that, a sexual desire for amputees. These can be, and often are, found in the same person. In that way, it's a parallel to AGP men who desire women, and understanding amputee fetishism (scientifically) is likely a good way to start learning about AGP. Similar enough to matter, different enough to provide a different perspective. Taaaangent....

AGP also, on occasion, causes men to self-amputate their own genitalia, rather than under the auspices of a surgeon.

Homosexuality is criminalized in many countries, some having the death penalty for it. Yet, upon pain of death, gay men are still trying to self-actualize, getting caught, and being executed.

The point I'm trying to make is that sexuality is very, very compelling, irrespective if we consider it abnormal or normal, respectively. People die for it. People kill because of sexual jealousy, paraphilia not required.

True bisexuality or pseudobisexuality.

I think this can't be answered until the topic is concluded as to what constitutes "genuine," in a philosophical sense. Or, another way to frame it that could be very revealing, is what constitutes "inauthenticity?"