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[–]NutterButterFlutter 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

1) What are things (physical or personality) you like in women but not men?

Physically, I like just about everything about women. Soft skin, soft hair, smiles. I love curvy gals and muscular gals. I suppose my type is short brunettes, but I can find beauty in just about every woman. No preference for/against body hair. Personality-wise, I tend to be initially drawn to women with strong no-nonsense personalities, but ultimately get along best with women who are more moderate emotionally, and only turn it up to 15 when absolutely necessary.

2) What are things (physical or personality) you like in men but not women?

There are physical traits I find appealing, like forearms, defined jawlines, the hip/pelvis V-cut, things like that. I don't like beards, so facial hair needs to be clean-shaven (scruffy is also acceptable). I prefer short hair rather than long. Personality-wise (I'm totally stereotyping), I like that they're direct and purposeful, and tend to cut out story-telling and descriptives when sharing about themselves.

To be honest though, I like the IDEA of men much more than I actually like THEM, if that makes any sense. All the things I described are appealing until I actually have to experience them for a prolonged period of time. Without fail, I eventually lose physical attraction and their personalities become a chore to deal with.

3) Are there similarities in what you like in both?

Like OP, I too appreciate a nice ass, lol. I don't know that I can broadly apply similarities, more like things that I look for in a partner. Cleanliness/tidiness, similar sense of humor (dark, sarcastic), financially responsible, mindfulness towards commitments/responsibilities, attempting to be self-aware and/or focus on self-growth. I love to cook and try new recipes, and appreciate my booze, so the person would have to be more on the foodie-side of things and be OK with alcohol. No recreational drugs, no exceptions.

4) How often do you have a "bi-cycle"?

I don't date anymore or really feel much attraction to anyone these days, but in the past, I'd guesstimate every 4-5 years.

5) Do you lean towards opposite sex, same sex or is it equal attraction?

Again, not feeling much attraction anymore, but in the past, it was equal.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To be honest though, I like the IDEA of men much more than I actually like THEM, if that makes any sense. All the things I described are appealing until I actually have to experience them for a prolonged period of time. Without fail, I eventually lose physical attraction and their personalities become a chore to deal with.

Holy moly I can relate to that! I think...for me it's because I'm envious of men? Idk, I'm detrans and GNC if that matters haha. And...And this is probably going to sound sexist/misandrist and idk how else to word it but I think with women it's a bit more simpler and no issues with power dynamics(I wonder if bi men feel the same but about men feeling more simple than women)? In an opposite sex relationship, sometimes there's an annoying "box" they try to put you in when you don't really fit there...from what I've experienced dating men/opposite sex.

4) How often do you have a "bi-cycle"?

I don't date anymore or really feel much attraction to anyone these days, but in the past, I'd guesstimate every 4-5 years.

5) Do you lean towards opposite sex, same sex or is it equal attraction?

Again, not feeling much attraction anymore, but in the past, it was equal.

Same, same. Not feeling much for anyone--not even celebrity crushes haha. But...I don't really have celebrity crushes? Like, I can see that they're attractive but it's not a "WOWEE HOT DAMN" it's just a "Oh, he/she is cute. Ok." I wonder if COVID is partial to blame? Heh.

Edit: redacted info lol.