I already posted in that thread (as you've seen lol) but I wanted to go into more detail here. You always post such thought provoking things!

1. This is a huge problem, and I talked about it briefly in the thread on drop the T. I think this mainly stems from the patriarchal view that dick is powerful enough to 'ruin' or 'turn' anyone it comes in contact with sexually. It's why people think bi men are 'just gay' and bi women are 'just straight'. Both circle back to the idea that if you're attracted to men, that's the ONLY type of attraction that carries any weight. Bi men get the worst of it because of how homophobic society is already.

2. I don't think we should remove the B but I do think it's time we should start being more vocal the way L, G and T is. Not vocal in a rabid 'look at me' sense but vocal in an 'educating people where its appropriate, learning more of our history, and being unafraid to call ourselves bi' sort of way.

3. Unsurprising that bisexuals are the least likely to come out.

4. Interesting stats. I've seen the low numbers regarding bisexuals in long term same sex relationships get used against us more than once. It's just a numbers game. Most people are straight. Of course more bisexuals are going to be het paired. Yet people try to use this as a 'gotcha' so often and say apparently it's our fault and it means we aren't 'really' same sex attracted. Makes no sense honestly.

I have a lot of feelings about all of this. First of all it pisses me off when I see other bisexuals doing this. Because it only hurts us and gives people more excuses to shit on us when that's the last thing we need. However, I do understand that being bi is confusing for a lot of bisexuals. It was for me, and it still is sometimes, so on that front I do empathize with the author of the article. Still though, ultimately he's not doing himself any favors by trying to pass as gay to avoid being bi.

I know for me I had a lot of trouble figuring out I was bi because I rarely got celebrity or fictional character crushes on women. All of my crushes on women happened IRL, whereas my crushes on men were all over the place. It took me years to realize just because I lean more toward men that didn't mean I was straight. Maybe the author of the article feels similarly. Maybe he's more attracted to men than he is to women so he figures it's okay for him to call himself gay. But that creates problems when your partners ask about dating history. Not to mention how fucked up it is to lie about something so integral to your personhood.

How do I explain that I was honestly in love with a woman? Some people might argue that I am innately bisexual, with the capacity to love both women and men. But that doesn’t feel like an accurate description of my sexual history, either.

This sounds a lot like my confusion when I was figuring out my sexuality. I had crushes on women I knew personally, but a female celebrity never did it for me the way some male celebrities did. I'd been physically intimate with one woman, but I had never dated a woman long term. I felt like I could just call myself straight and that was accurate. After all, my attraction to men and women must manifest the exact same way on all accounts shouldn't it? That's what I thought at least.

The author mentions he was only ever in love with one woman. So 'bisexual' probably felt weird to him because he's not a 50/50 bi, but it's not about being equally attracted to men and women. As I got older I realized MOST bisexuals don't experience attraction 50/50. Most don't even have a completely 50/50 dating history. I realized I was trying to force myself to be straight for no reason.

I think this guy either doesn't think bisexuality is real, or doesn't realize you are still bi even if you have a strong preference for one sex over the other.