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[–]PenseePansy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I definitely prefer "same-sex" marriage, particularly over the competing term which I've heard far more often than "marriage equality" (my objections to which OP and others here have already covered): "gay marriage".

While the term "gay marriage" DOES come out ahead of "marriage equality" (way less vague and needlessly-prissy), the problem is... it excludes us. If a bisexual marries a gay man or lesbian, is that a "gay marriage"? How about when two bi men, or two bi women, marry each other? Then you have a "gay marriage" where neither spouse is actually gay! Sure, I guess it's not really a big deal... but what with the widespread tendency to erase us and let the LG eclipse the B, yet another example is still far from welcome.

Which doesn't happen with "same-sex marriage": it puts gay and (m/m or f/f) bi people on an equal footing. And that's the ONLY kind of "marriage equality" that I'm interested in. :)

[–]MarkJefferson 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Good point. That always bugged me too about the term "gay marriage". It obviously rolls off the tongue easier than "same-sex marriage", but the slight convenience is not worth the inappropriate-ness of the term. Also, I think many people use it because they see bisexuals as being half-gay and half-straight, so "gay marriage" works with that incomplete meaning in mind, as it is a marriage for that particular "half". To me, it doesn't work for bisexuals because "Gay" means exclusively same-sex attracted. You can't be half exclusively same-sex attracted and half exclusively opposite-sex attracted at the same time. Ah, the Bi erasure sometimes feels like a very stale and rough eraser that sands away the paper...