Bi culture: possible? desirable? what should it look like?

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[–]deftoneslettuce 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (8 children)

This isn't really a culture thing but I track my bi cycling with my menstrual cycle. Obviously this isn't really possible for men but it would be cool to have stuff with moons, kind of like a way of getting back at people who say it's a phase, like a moon phase.

[–]clitoriana 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I want to start doing this too 😂 Just to see what I can glean from the data

[–]PenseePansy[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Re: bi-cycling-- I've wanted to write a post on this too, actually! Curious about people's experience with it. Would you mind sharing yours? It's connected to your menstrual cycle, then?

[–]deftoneslettuce 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For me it happens to sync with my period, and I get my period every six weeks.

The weeks before, during, and after my period, I prefer women. The three weeks after that, I prefer men. I just so happen to prefer feminine women and masculine men, but overall I like all women.

The week I'm ovulating is usually the last week I prefer men, and it hits me hard, as in I just cannot stop thinking about them lmao and I'm constantly aroused. It all dies down and my preferences flip the next week.

I get intense mood swings in the week before my period, and I don't know how much of that is attributed to changing hormone levels, so I'm not sure if that's linked to the sudden change from obsessing over men to preferring women completely.

It's strange thinking about it and I wonder if it's all coincidence or if I'm making it up, but this has happened for a few years before I started tracking the cycle with my.. cycle.

[–]PenseePansy[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So interesting! This is, as that GIF with Phoebe from Friends put it, "brand-new information!" (At least to me-- never heard of "bi-cycling" tracking with menstrual cycling before!) Particularly because it's one of those phenomena that's bi-specific; the whole cycling/fluctuation in our attraction to the sexes really has no parallel among monosexuals, I don't think (they can experience increased or diminished desire, of course, but only ever for one sex, which seems like quite a different matter to me). And I feel that the ways in which we are clearly "our own thing" (rather than the popular misunderstanding of us as "half-and-half") are especially important to emphasize.

[–]PeakingPeachEater 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've wanted to write a post on this too, actually!

That'd be fun! I'm curious to hear people's perspective on this. :)

[–]ChodeSandwich 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

What do you think of the double crescent moon symbol ?

[–]PenseePansy[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What do you think of the double crescent moon symbol ?

First: thanks for the link-- bookmarked! New bi-related stuff is always welcome :)

About the double-crescent-moon symbol: I confess that I've never really "gotten" this one; what's the significance of the lunar theme? Though maybe, as noted above-- re: bi-cycling/menstrual-cycle synchronicity-- there actually is some moon-related relevance after all! (At least for some bi women.) How does this symbol strike you, Sandwich?

As far as bi symbols go, I'm kinda partial to the interlocked ♂ & ♀ (Mars & Venus) ones, myself, especially if blue is used for the opposite sex, pink for the same sex, and lavender for the "central" (bi) man or woman. (Definitely prefer that to the more typical color-coding for the bi person's partners: pink = woman, blue = man-- ew! Gender-role bullshit alert! No thanks!) That seems to get the point across in a simple and aesthetically-pleasing fashion. Like, being lavender means that we're not "half-gay (pink), half-straight (blue)"-- we're a blend which results in something else altogether. A "color" in our own right, you know?

I would like a symbol on the order of the violet-flower for lesbians, or the pansy/green carnation for gay men... haven't been able to come up with anything suitable, though. If you guys think of a good one, please let me know!

[–]ChodeSandwich 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't 'cycle or fluctuate very much but I really like the crescent moons. I have some personal affinities with the moon, and it looks mysterious and powerful. I think I'm partial to anything that isn't as geometric as a flag or the sex symbols.

ETA: I remember talks on one of the bisexual subreddits of "weapon" symbolism i.e lesbians have a labrys, gay men have a broadsword, and the bow-and-arrow for bisexuals. It's not a terrible idea but I don't know much about it (namely whether or not this would feel like stepping on lesbian toes.) If I find anything else I can bring it here too.