[Article] "Most Bisexuals Will Date Men And Women But Not A Transwoman"

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[–]clitoriana 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

I only just started reading and I already feel like this article aged me 1000 years.

Maybe it’s just me, but I always thought of Bisexuals and Pansexuals as perhaps the most sexually evolved of our species. They aren’t obsessed with or distracted by genitals. They don’t hyperfocus on gender roles and instead see beyond the gender exterior and base their attraction on an individual’s quality of character. For these people, sex is secondary, and not the primary pursuit.

When oh when will they stop treating sexual orientations as political statements, ideological positions, intellectual exercises, and philanthropic outreach (sex for the needy! romantic attentions for gender minorities! humanitarian aid for people with narcissistic personality disorder!)?

It's also really weird that they talk about us like we have sex like we're extraterrestrial beings levitating and psychically transmitting intuitive vibes at each other...Bruh. I am very much concerned with genitals when it comes to having sex with someone. I actively desire and interact with a partner's body. Sex isn't secondary, it's part and parcel. Someone's body is an inextricable part of who they are, and if I love and want someone, their body is included. Maybe I am alone in feeling this way but I think it's unhealthy to try to divorce someone from their physical form and wax poetic about how you see past that (and more than a little insulting - like, aren't you physically attracted to your own lover?! lol).

Do they make me laugh? Do I enjoy spending time with them? Do I look forward to seeing them each day? Do we share commonalities? Are they intellectually stimulating? These things usually determine whether or not a Bisexual or Pansexual becomes sexually attracted to another individual, be they male or female, their gender is, allegedly, largely irrelevant.

Straight and gay people also find those things important regarding attraction. They're not genital-obsessed sex freaks. They, too, experience this! They, too, care about the personalities, values, and interests of their partners.

Women tend to be more sexually liberated and emotionally accessible. Women are far more capable of looking past the body and into the eyes of a prospective lover. They simply do not prioritize the act of sex over the emotional satisfaction of a compatible partner.

Red flags. Sounds like this person enjoys how female socialization often compels us to put other people's emotional satisfaction over our own needs and wants.

I don't know if I can take this article seriously. I'm kind of tired of trans people begging everyone else to have sex with them. I'm firmly unwavering on my own personal No-Trans law, because I'm not into emotionally unstable people with a tenuous grip on reality.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The person who wrote this was a trans male. He sounds VERY entitled.

To be honest, this article was littered with homophobia AND biphobia. He acted like homosexual people were merely 'genital fetishists'(like you mentioned) and that bisexuals and 'pansexuals' should be more willing to date trans because apparently we're the 'most sexually evolved of our species(aka, we're expected to not have any standards). The way he writes about us throughout the article sounds like we were fetishized---as though we ALL have threesomes, have other extramarital affairs since our partner 'isn't enough' and OH he has 'bisexual' friends so apparently he knows best. How about 'NOPE'?

Not sure what his problem was with bisexuals ending up in opposite sex relationships. He said that basically we don't want to be considered 'gay'(we're not gay, we're bisexual) or that we call ourselves bisexual because it's 'trendy' and 'progressive':

As much as I’m lauding Bisexuals, it should be noted that studies show over 80% of them traditionally end up in Male/Female relationships. Perhaps it’s because of the inherent fear of the stigma associated with being labelled gay, or the trendiness of calling oneself Bisexual just appears so progressive. The fact is, most people who claim to be bisexual almost never end up in same sex relationships- and, commonly, they end up in heterosexual relationships, but will open it up sexually to occasional third parties they invite into the bedroom.

Yeah, this whole article reeks.