Relationships: What People Think Vs What It's Actually Like

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[–]ElectricSheep 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Having dealt with this first hand, It's hard to imagine ever dating a straight woman again.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Oh damn, I'm sorry man! That sounds really annoying and I don't blame you! The only people that think I'm "gay" are my friends and coworkers because I'm a gender non-conforming woman(aka masculine woman...). They got REALLY surprised when they found out I was pregnant lol. My old "woke" friends used to treat me as the "man" in the friend group it's...awkward.

Anyways!

For women, we get the flip side when we date straight men: Coming out to a partner: What people think vs What it's actually like.

[–]PenseePansy 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

For women, we get the flip side when we date straight men

Yep, we sure do, don't we? That being what I've dubbed the "Can-I-Watch?" side.

Interesting how bi men are always assumed to REALLY be gay (as ElectricSheep can unfortunately attest)... but somehow we never are! Is there a subconscious belief that attraction to men overrules attraction to women, or something? Any ideas as to what's going on here?

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I saw a meme about that!! About bisexual men & women being attracted to men but not women, it's weird. A lot of people like to say lesbian women don't exist either because women only make out to get men's attention. ( ಠ__ಠ )...yet they also say ALL women are "sexually fluid", so I'm confused.(("LoL dUmb BIseXuaL iz c0nfUseD LiKe sTeReOtYpe!!")

[–]ElectricSheep 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

lol I don't envy the threesome conversation. It sounds exhausting. When I made the mistake of telling a couple coworkers I definitely became a topic of conversation and I now know that I'll never make that mistake again.

[–]PeakingPeachEater[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yikes! Yeah, some people are really weird when it comes to bisexuality and ask a LOT of inappropriate questions or make gross remarks.

[–]PenseePansy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ugh, my sympathies! How did that make you feel? I mean, not good, obviously, but in what way? Frustrated? Insulted? Depressed? And (if I'm not being too nosy) were you, um, sexually-enthusiastic about your girlfriend at first? (Or are we talking "girlfriendS" here?-- hope that you didn't have to go through this more than once!) Such that, when she's second-guessing your denial of gayness for the millionth time, it's not long after you've just been very, very UNgay with her? WTF???

Do you know if she ever had a boyfriend who DID turn out to be gay? Or could you tell that this was just a case of plain ol' "bisexuality doesn't exist" + "peen cancels out vajayjay"?

Yet more evidence of why "bi" needs to be UNIVERSALLY recognized as a sexual orientation, stat! Not a euphemism for "gay", not "just a phase", not some mysterious Twilight Zone of sexuality. Though I suppose that even then, people like this chick would still be bugging us-- they'd just move on to "how can I be ENOUGH for you? You MUST always be hankerin' for what I haven't got, right?" etc. Those wacky monosexuals... :(

[–]ElectricSheep 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was definitely "enthusiastic" about her but I think that faded the longer time went on, because of personality differences. There were 2 that became difficult because of this and its not something I'm looking to experience again.