am I a #tradwife? is there a community?

Retro-Housewife · 2020-08-17T17:40:02+00:00

https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/601092/jewish/Why-Is-Jewishness-Matrilineal.htm

I'm Jewish Orthodox. My mother is Jewish, my grandmother is Jewish, my great-grandmother is Jewish and and every grandmother that I have that came before me has been Jewish. Judaism is Matrilineal

I wouldn't argue with the Pope about being Catholic so kindly don't argue with me about being Jewish.

Dragonerne · 2020-08-16T12:23:40+00:00

No, it is Jacobs seed that is blessed by God. Not his wife, not his daughters, but his seed.

Retro-Housewife · 2020-08-16T12:05:08+00:00

Jewish law is very clear that the child of a Jewish mother is Jewish and not the father. It has been this way since we were given the Torah. On the other hand the priesthood is patrilineal.

mintea · 2020-08-16T04:33:36+00:00

Exactly. Modern culture says that being a strong woman means being masculine when it's actually the opposite. Feminine strength lies in humility, putting others first, and being an example of virtue.

bald-janitor · 2020-08-15T11:01:24+00:00

😮

Dragonerne · 2020-08-15T10:18:02+00:00

If your mother was not born Jewish then you can not become Jewish.

This is not true. Jewishness comes from the male line from Abraham into Shem. You cannot be a jew without a jewish father.

Comatoast · 2020-08-05T00:03:00+00:00

When you have that long of a time on birth control it can screw up your natural rhythm. You could try eliminating refined carbs and sugars for a couple of weeks to try to help reset yourself?

Look into Shatavari powder for regulating your cycle maybe as a secondary?

Comatoast · 2020-08-04T23:51:59+00:00

I hope that you all won't mind a drifter. I have some medical research articles here that might come of interest. In short, infertility rates have become a bit of a work in progress.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3504417/

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fphar.2019.01309/full

https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fendo.2018.00288/full

WooWhoVintage · 2020-08-01T11:59:09+00:00

The only reason why someone can be Jewish and an atheist is because They're also a nationality.

Otherwise, the very first building block of any religion, including paganism, is the belief in God or gods.

hkkb · 2020-07-31T22:56:06+00:00

Yes, I was hoping there was a religion where my atheism would not be considered hypocrisy, but it doesn't look like it, thanks for the info! The government is not even close to a replacement for religion, though some people unfortunately treat politics as one. Not all atheists think exactly the same, I am an atheist and I guess I believe that scientifically speaking we are created by chance, and I believe laws are rules which are enforced on an entire community by the agreement of the community, which in the legal sense means -theoretically- they are rules enforced by the consent of the majority of the population to the rule of the authority, which enforces those rules via the implied threat of unequal access to force. Depending what exactly the divine/higher purpose you speak of is, I may or may not believe humans have one, but rights do not come from government, they are God given, and it would be frankly ridiculous for even an atheist to believe otherwise, especially to think that the government can affect rights in any way but to infringe upon them.

hkkb · 2020-07-31T22:33:30+00:00

thank you for sharing the info! I did a little research and found similar things, that Christianity basically requires you to believe literal God, I was hoping one group might not. I did also actually ask a few Jews about converting and they told me it was strongly discouraged

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-31T21:11:55+00:00

I am unwilling to lie for any reason, and I'm obviously an atheist, so i've been "shopping around" I guess for a religion that would allow me membership even if I don't believe God is a conscious force or being.

Joining any religion when you're an atheist is hypocrisy and you would be, therefore, a liar.

Also a religion for atheists is basically government. We believe that God created us, gave us a divine purpose and all our rights and laws come from Him. Whereas an atheist believes that we were created by chance, have no higher purpose and our rights and laws come from the threat of government's use of violent force.

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-31T21:02:56+00:00

If your mother was born Jewish then you can be an atheist Jew. If your mother was not born Jewish then you can not become Jewish.
I'm fairly certain that 99.9% of all Christian denominations will require that you believe in G-d.
Islam will have zero tolerance towards atheists.

hkkb · 2020-07-31T17:01:10+00:00

thanks so much for your help! I'm looking for a religion for the exact reasons you describe, it is not acceptable to me that I am believing and practicing whatever I like, worshipping my own worldview. I believe it is morally wrong to not be part of a religious community to which you have to conform yourself and be challenged by, it's wrong to do every single thing exactly as it suits you, and thousands of years of knowledge and tradition probably know better than me anyway. my obstacle in righting what I believe to be the serious moral failing of cultural atheism is that I am unwilling to lie for any reason, and I'm obviously an atheist, so i've been "shopping around" I guess for a religion that would allow me membership even if I don't believe God is a conscious force or being. I don't have any religious background in my family that I can go off of, so I don't just want to arbitrarily pick a religion at random to join, it could be a cult or something for all I know. The only religion I've really heard of is Catholicism (I've also heard of Judaism, Protestant, Muslim, but I don't know what they are other than Protestants are related to Catholics) and I would be happy to become Catholic even though I think I disagree with them a lot -based on the Catholic friend I had- because what do I know about what's right anyway? However, it seems to me that true faith and belief are very important to Catholicism and they wouldn't want me to attend if they knew that I just can't get myself to believe deep down that God is conscious. I've also found that a religious group is the only source of community and shared lifestyle and values, as you said, but as religion doesn't seem to be an option for me, I thought I'd give a shot at finding a community of similarly traditional women in case there was at least some benefit

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-30T23:36:58+00:00

There are 2 things that you've written that jump out at me:

1. You can't go "looking" for a religion that "works" for you. Religion doesn't validate or confirm what you already believe. In fact, it does the exact opposite by challenging your beliefs and curtailing your behaviors. Faith in G-d, is best thought of as medicine. From time to time it may taste bad but it's making you a much healthier person.

I'm strict Jewish Orthodox (Hasidic) and I've been down the road of shopping for a faith that better suited the lifestyle that I wanted to have. In the end, my quest for a religion that validated my world view only brought me a lot of pain and suffering.

2. There is no Trad Wife organization or any kind of Trad rule book. If you want to be an atheist and live like a 1950s housewife and stay at home mom, then there's nothing stopping you. The only problem that you're going to have is finding a community that shares your lifestyle /values. By comparison most Orthodox religions will have a community of people that will share your lifestyle /values.

A good synagogue or church provides you

siriusisness · 2020-07-30T18:58:05+00:00

Its funny that the phrase "have it all" even gets used. It seems to just translate to "I can have ALL of the dick"

wagiemuzzle · 2020-07-29T17:40:47+00:00

Me too!

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-29T11:34:27+00:00

I'm hoping that one day that I'll be.

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-29T11:33:18+00:00

Irregular means you might be a day or two early or late. For knowing if you're pregnant perhaps you can do what I do. My 99 cents only store has tests and I picked up bunch because they're cheap. So if you're late by a day or two then just take a test.

Geeopatra · 2020-07-29T05:48:42+00:00

True

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-25T00:27:05+00:00

Very 'safe' when someone dies 100% of the time. And people really trust him to head the coronavirus vaccine efforts.

AnniWishUWell · 2020-07-22T22:38:58+00:00

Today's Boy Scouts aren't the same Scouts that was around in my father's day.

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-22T16:48:46+00:00

I went to a private Jewish school. I remember talking to public school students and wondering why they always seemed to be challenged by certain academic subjects.

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-22T16:45:55+00:00

It's just common sense when you stop to think about it.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-22T15:24:08+00:00

That first sentence is so true. Without that concept, we wind up by encouraging mediocrity.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-22T15:20:54+00:00

This was an interesting read. I had no idea those little swimmers were so competitive.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-22T11:41:40+00:00

Market competition has proven the opposite. When inferior goods or services dominate the market then we've got a market that lacks competition.

amiaowcat · 2020-07-22T07:31:05+00:00

While great in theory, those schools will just become profit-driven and deliver low quality education at the lowest cost for the highest price. Human greed is endless

bald-janitor · 2020-07-20T08:38:25+00:00

😊

Edge_Finder · 2020-07-20T00:59:55+00:00

not necessarily american values, a lot feel the the same way. we are just sane people

Retro-Housewife · 2020-07-19T12:46:50+00:00

Totally agree

TheKsist · 2020-07-18T22:22:41+00:00

Awesome. It's good that people are willing to say it.

Raven95 · 2020-07-17T05:35:48+00:00

I’m big on 50/50 and equal responsibilities. I think a lot of women, especially working women like myself get angry because we shouldn’t have to be 100% responsible for the household, childcare, and managing of lives when we ourselves are also working. Like we are tired, I’m about to possibly start my 2nd job, so no I don’t want to be 100% responsible for everything because I can’t handle it all. That and men don’t often think of the fact that we also need breaks.

If I were still a SAHM, I’d take those responsibilities on because I’m at home, but when I’m also working, my husband can help me around at home and with our child.

autumnfair · 2020-07-17T05:10:37+00:00

I think some of it has to do with not being taught how to manage a household.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-15T14:10:51+00:00

I'm glad she's doing better and can go home soon!

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-14T18:22:05+00:00

No, it's just us moderators making mistakes again.

midwesttradwife · 2020-07-14T17:11:31+00:00

Was the post removed?

Mrs_Smith · 2020-07-14T10:00:41+00:00

No. Scientifically no, studies have found absolutely no evidence that putting your legs up changes anything.

Sperm is ejaculated at very high speed. All viable sperm will be in the cervix within less then 30 seconds (if you are having sex when you have fertile cervical fluid many will find their way through, if not they die). Anything that didn't find its way there quickly is not going to be finding its way to an egg and is likely to be abnormal.

Highly recommend watching The Great Sperm Race : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qegAMEZ_Ok&feature=youtu.be Pretty funny but scientifically accurate and easy for anyone to understand.

Raven95 · 2020-07-14T03:56:48+00:00

That’s how I got pregnant so I’d say it works.

Raven95 · 2020-07-14T03:53:50+00:00

Oh man, she wouldn’t like me. I practically LIVE in my yoga pants 😂🤣

JonSnoWight · 2020-07-14T03:42:36+00:00

I have to say, I completely agree with this woman. There is nothing at all wrong with wanting to stay at home and care for your family. There is nothing at all wrong with taking pride in motherhood or in being a good wife. There is nothing at all wrong with saying that housework is work or in taking a little pride in your appearance whilst doing it.

Thisisdog · 2020-07-14T00:17:30+00:00

What a bummer. I've been looking for wholesome shows for awhile. Haven't found much.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-13T21:35:12+00:00

There was a woman on reddit who is 55 and pregnant. I think it's as I've always said, when you live healthy and workout then you'll be able to conceive into your 60s.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-13T14:11:06+00:00

I know of plenty of couples that have started families in their 30s, including myself, and have had no difficulty having a child.

I think a lot of it has to do with what we eat and our exercise habits. Our society is more sedentary than previous generations and we seem to spend a lot of money on fast food and junk food. Throw alcohol and drugs (prescription and illegal) into the mix and all these could contribute to declining fertility rates.

I've seen articles like this before and they always seem to want to focus on the age of the woman. I think the age of the man is also important.

amiaowcat · 2020-07-13T07:03:55+00:00

I think it's in part to do with fertility medicines and treatments like IVF. Previously, people who were infertile weren't able to pass on infertility because well, they were infertile. Now people who maybe shouldn't be able to have children are having children, and their children are more likely to be less fertile than a child born to more naturally fertile parents

autumnfair · 2020-07-13T03:29:30+00:00

Honestly, I believe it has to do with a combination of food (pesticides, hormones, antibiotics), birth control, weight, age, and social media/Netflix. Not all apply to everyone but at least one of more can contribute.

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-12T23:52:44+00:00

I've heard it helps because it keeps the 'swimmers' in the right place for a longer amount of time. Though women have been getting pregnant since forever I'm pretty sure they all didn't lift their legs afterwards.

Ive heard good things about Mucinex because it thickens the mucus everywhere in the body which helps the embryo stick.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-11T14:24:55+00:00

This is why we don't watch TV that much, and when we do it's usually something that we're familiar with, especially if we're going to watch it with the kids.

Aureus · 2020-07-11T06:23:20+00:00

Netflix has been terrible for a while... I haven't watched anything off it in months. I don't think they have anything good.

SaidOverRed · 2020-07-11T04:46:19+00:00

I would say boy scouts, but that's gone now. Um, churches are still left if you ask your nearest corona tsar nicely.

SaidOverRed · 2020-07-11T04:44:46+00:00

Oh honey you are so trad, you have no idea what's going on out there. Let's recap "normal" leftism:

1) No drug additions (I hope) 2) No misanthropy (love your kids while you got'em) 3) No use for public school brainwashing (so you wouldn't be teaching gay sex to the kindergardeners? ... that's not an overstatement) 4) You know how to curate food, have the humility to do basic chores without the urge to rage against 'the patriarchy' (yes this is real too, just find your nearest big city and locate a plumb woman alone with pink/red hair and big glasses.) 5) Not a whore (because we all no satisfaction goes DOWN when you become the town bicycle)

Yes, yes you belong here. And don't worry, Jesus loves you, even if you had down all the above to hurt yourself.

SaidOverRed · 2020-07-11T04:36:48+00:00

Interesting. It works for me. Here you go:

1) Picture of 9 kids in a row: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EcF38Q6WoAAm0iH?format=jpg 2) 1:01pm 03 Jul 2020 @alecialynn replying to @GoldenJans "imagine spending that much of your life pregnant! couldn't be me" 3) Colonizer Katie @LadyKatofFash · Jul 4 : "Imagine spending that much of your life alone, with your cats?"

SaidOverRed · 2020-07-11T04:31:31+00:00

Well, the good news is that discord is a slow rolling beast. So if you have 20 people and there's a post once a day it's fine. If you have 2000 and there are 5 posts a second, however...

So yeah, smaller is okay.

slushpilot · 2020-07-10T23:01:26+00:00

Oh, I didn't mean to combine the wax and water together at all. It's just a trick to place a cup of water in there beside whatever it is you're heating, if the thing you're heating is small or could burn when it gets heated too much.

Scrubjay · 2020-07-10T06:52:20+00:00

It's all about letting your "team" go out and play while keeping the other "team" in the dugout.

slushpilot · 2020-07-10T02:48:04+00:00

Double boiler not broiler to be sure!

And be careful if you decide to use the microwave, that sounds a bit scary. It might help to place a cup of water together with the wax so it absorbs some of the energy & reduce hotspots.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-10T00:06:17+00:00

We're more than willing to setup discord. Unfortunately, there just doesn't seem to be a lot of interest in it.

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-09T13:01:17+00:00

That is so cool! Makes me wonder if Gen Z will go all 90s nostalgic in the next 10 years.

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-09T12:57:03+00:00

True. That's how it's been historically. Pride and Prejudice is my favorite movie so I definitely get it.

I don't mind my nose hairs getting pulled a little bit. 🥰

slushpilot · 2020-07-08T17:16:39+00:00

In one of these videos, Sarah laments how reporters who interview her only want to talk about how her lifestyle is retrograde and somehow submissive—bringing up things like wearing corsets, not for herself but assumedly for her husband's pleasure. But that's not what she is about. She has so much interesting knowledge to share about a time period that is often portrayed as prudish and strict and boring. We often forget the world was never standing stock-still like in the sepia-toned photographs that remain.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-08T16:42:35+00:00

Our clothes and junk changes but humanity never does. In some ways that's a great thing but in other ways it's terrible.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-08T13:19:14+00:00

That was interesting. What's even more interesting is that those vacations don't look much different from those my hubby and I usually to go on. The only big difference is that we're dressed in shorts, tank tops, and t-shirts. Other than that it looks pretty much the same.

MrsGilbert · 2020-07-06T21:47:53+00:00

Isn't it crazy? I had a woman the other day ask me why I didn't just get a "real job" and hire a maid. I told her my family is very fortunate to have a maid, personal chef, and private childcare... It's me, I'm those things. Lol. I've never been happier. It's the only work that fills my heart with joy from the moment I wake up until I close my eyes at night. And if that's wrong, then I don't want to be right.

TripleXChromosomeGal · 2020-07-06T20:43:16+00:00

These days all women are considered radicals when they don't want to dominate men, have 2 abortions, be married to a lesbian and pursue a high power career as a lawyer or head of state.

horatioherbert · 2020-07-06T19:57:35+00:00

I agree , it is sad these people have been tricked into hating themselves.

ashes14036 · 2020-07-06T18:56:10+00:00

Closetconservative, thanks for sharing that wonderful story

AnniWishUWell · 2020-07-06T16:38:49+00:00

I adore being a housewife and a stay at home mom. I take care of my family with love, patience, teaching, corner time and on rare occasions a spanking. In return they give me an enormous amount of love. Why would I ever want to give that up in order to go work for someone that will replace me the moment I get sick or die.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-06T14:32:12+00:00

One of the problems we're seeing is that straight, white, Christian males are attacking straight, white, Christian males.

horatioherbert · 2020-07-06T13:05:00+00:00

Why are they in MSM so threatened by this demographic (straight, white, Christian male) ? Is this the only demographic capable of resisting their designs on society so they must be attacked and vilified daily ?

LarrySwinger2 · 2020-07-06T12:43:45+00:00

By the way, Saidit uses Markdown, so headers are formatted like this:

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WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-06T01:50:54+00:00

Oh well, I'm sure it was funny

cons_nc · 2020-07-06T01:14:32+00:00

Looks like she went private...shoulda grabbed a screenshot.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-06T00:19:37+00:00

Is there a downvote button?

Riva · 2020-07-05T23:16:54+00:00

Why is the upvote count hidden? Glitch or on purpose?

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T22:36:15+00:00

Spot on. I mean it's insane that you can scream BLM in each other's faces but you can't sit in a church and read the bible.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T22:35:30+00:00

Well at this time I guess it's as good as a theory as any.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T22:35:12+00:00

Absolutely, I'm very devout.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T22:34:46+00:00

Relax, I'm only pulling at your nose hairs. However, in the "Trad community" I've noticed that there is a noticeable number women that prefer much older men. Soooo, I'm guessing I kind of felt obligated to give your nose hairs a tug.

MrsGilbert · 2020-07-05T22:05:25+00:00

I'm not even religious and this upsets me. To many people, religion is the most important thing in the world. You can't just take that away from people...

SaidOverRed · 2020-07-05T21:11:59+00:00

At a certain point, they are just trying to see how blatant they can be. Like testing the stupidity of their MSM-believing sheep .

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-05T21:03:14+00:00

My parents church opened today but it was drive in so everybody had to stay in their cars. Apparently, only religious people can spread coronavirus but not protesters or medical staff because diseases understand nuance.

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-05T21:00:08+00:00

Oof. I meant it in a nice way. I've had a man 20 years older than me interested in me romantically but I don't think my parents would have been happy.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T19:25:34+00:00

LOL, careful there's a woman on this sub who has a husband that's more than twice her age. I hear she's a real tough cookie.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T19:24:35+00:00

Well the situation is the situation. We can't change it but we can change the way we handle it.

TheDailyCosco · 2020-07-05T15:48:23+00:00

The hypocrisy is on full display, yet they still deny it.

C3P0 · 2020-07-05T05:27:43+00:00

That sounds similar to a questionnaire to measure blood pressure.

Oh well, someone gets a Ph.D. for doing a pseudoscience study.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-05T03:19:54+00:00

I get a "page doesn't exist" message.

ccccccc · 2020-07-05T00:50:54+00:00

I am just a participant here, but I agree. Especially when representing America we should be on good behavior and respect what subs are meant for. However I think this message does belong on /s/USPolitics, so I will be doing an additional crosspost to there.

ihaveyourdress · 2020-07-04T20:47:30+00:00

Huge double standard. Though, if this was 100 years ago and the ages were reversed they'd probably be a married couple.

TripleXChromosomeGal · 2020-07-04T15:51:25+00:00

The way the flag has been defamed it should be posted everywhere.

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-04T15:42:21+00:00

Mom, home and apple pie.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-04T15:00:11+00:00

I think getting $125 for three hours of answering questions would make me happy!

I-0x0-I · 2020-07-04T14:56:40+00:00

wonderful sentiment. not sure it belongs here. appreciate it all the same.

VantaFount · 2020-07-04T13:08:26+00:00

While I agree with the sentiment, I don't think it's necessary to cross post onto 14 other subsaidits.

TripleXChromosomeGal · 2020-07-04T13:01:36+00:00

I did one of those happiness studies. It was funny all the questions they asked me and it took about 3 hours. When it was over I went home with $125 for doing the study.

C3P0 · 2020-07-04T05:38:48+00:00

How would you compare two persons' happiness? Could you assign a number rating to "happiness?"

I'd like to know what my rating is. Where can I go to get tested?

WooWhoVintage · 2020-07-03T15:55:22+00:00

Up until the the beginning of this year I was a working mom also. I just realized that I want to pursue a career as a homemaker and spend more time with my children.

Welcome to the Mommy Mush Brain club and it's good to see you here.

AngelFirePi · 2020-07-03T12:59:26+00:00

I don't think you need to be Christian to be traditional, but in our modern world you're more likely to find traditional wives that are Christian.

Up until the the beginning of this year I was a working mom also. I just realized that I want to pursue a career as a homemaker and spend more time with my children.

In any case, I would like to welcome you here and look forward to your contributions!

calmbluejay · 2020-07-03T12:31:05+00:00

I absolutely agree that is what they're trying to do.

autumnfair · 2020-07-03T06:31:40+00:00

Why don’t you just ban talking or breathing since you can get it from that too. They just want some way to continue to keep God silent.

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