large number of single mothers is mostly the fault of women or men? or both?

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[–]Mcheetah 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Women have all the agency and power in dating, relationships, and sex, so it's mostly their fault (like 75%) for choosing the wrong men and expecting father figures out of Chads and Tyrones, but it's also the men's fault (like 25%) for not wearing protection, and if they get fucked over with child support and DNA proves it's theirs, that's all of them.

[–]brimshae 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Women. "Go ahead and cum in me." is a woman decision.

Whether or not women can be expected to be held accountable for their decisions like a rational adult is a completely different discussion.

[–]Hematomato 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The most common story is that a couple 20 year olds get really drunk together, he sticks it in, nobody thinks about contraception, and bam you've got a baby.

Then they usually try to stick it out for a couple years, even have a second baby, but it's stressful and it's a hard life and it's not what either of them wanted. And they don't have any relationship before the baby. And they don't even have anything in common.

So they go into a death spiral of antagonizing each other, until they separate because they can't stand to breathe the same fucking air.

It's not really "a gender's" fault.

And hell, maybe we shouldn't call it "fault" at all. At least they're having kids. There are so many people out there who are like "I did it right. I was responsible and didn't reproduce. Now I have money and I can travel."

So, cool. You look at Indonesia and confirm it's definitely there, and then they can bury your money in the coffin with you? Like, what the fuck is the point of that life.

[–]Mcheetah 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So, cool. You look at Indonesia and confirm it's definitely there, and then they can bury your money in the coffin with you? Like, what the fuck is the point of that life.

Happiness and freedom? 🤷‍♂️

I mean, if we weren't living in a dystopia and like 80% of modern Western women under 30 didn't have shitty entitled attitudes and only going after the top 10% of GigaChads while offering nothing in return to improve a man's life, and we didn't have the government, Hollywood, and Silicon Valley trying to fuck your children after turning them trans, then I'd be all with you about raising families and all. But in this society? No, they're better off not entering this fucked up world of gender reassignment surgery and Kamala Harris.

I'm actually a teacher (non-Western) and do my best to keep my students as whitepilled as possible, cause Lord knows their happiness and innocence isn't going to last forever.

[–]KleinWolf35 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Not having kids.

[–]Hematomato 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, and then I guess you can complain bitterly about all the immigrants who came over to fill the labor shortage you helped create.

[–]passionflounder 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's a symptom of a much greater societal ailment that began many generations ago. Framing thee question as a gender-based problem evades the issue.

[–]GuyWhite 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The problem is mostly a nigra phenomenon.

[–]drummyfish 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

capitalism

[–]SoCo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In the minority demographics, the prominent contributor has been very clearly for a long time to be excessive enforcement of drug laws. Most black families are destroyed by their fathers going to prison.

Yet, this is related to the problem that is equalizing among demographics...poverty. Families rarely survive long term poverty. Violence, unhappiness, gang activity, theft, and other law violations are primarily the result of poverty.

Sprinkle a little hormone disrupting pollution on all our food, all our drinking water, and in all our breathing air....and struggles are sure to ensue. (This may be the biggest contributor, actually)