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[–]StillLessons 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You have two mistaken premises:

First mistake: not accepting trans people's claim to the experience of a sex they will never possess is bigotry. Actually, the bigots are the trans people themselves for demeaning, trivializing, and simplifying a field as wildly complex as human sexuality by believing that their preconceptions of "male" and "female" are adequate and complete descriptions of a field of reality WAY beyond their understanding. It's beyond my understanding as well, but I'm not claiming to "be" something other than a person born into a body I will never fully comprehend.

Second mistake: agreeing with the trans person's mistake is "acceptance". This is the basic, fundamental problem with this philosophy and the reason for all the violence. When you tell a trans person you are "accepting" them, you are "accepting" their statement that they were "born in the wrong body". Editing that down a bit, you are "accepting" that they were born "wrong". They believe that from the first instant of their existence, they were a mistake. There can be no more succinct and complete expression of self-hatred than this. By "accepting" this person's interior story, you are agreeing with them that THEIR LIFE FROM BIRTH WAS A MISTAKE. Even worse are the parents planting this idea in the heads of their children! That is so sick it disgusts me. Telling your child they were "born wrong". It's shocking to even consider passing such a notion to your child. I refuse to accept it for myself, and I absolutely refuse to accept it for "trans" people as well. Their existence is not and never has been a mistake. They are and have always been valid human beings by definition of existing. I refuse to accept their belief that self-rejection (up to and including self-mutilation) is somehow required to "validate" their existence. That is a radically cruel notion.

When adolescents "cut", we correctly view that as a desperate cry of unhappiness, and we work to help the person cutting to stop doing this to themselves. They are perfect as they are. Why should we do any differently when a surgeon is holding the blade with which they want to cut themselves or a doctor is holding the syringe to destroy their body, which is PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE JUST AS IT IS.

THAT is acceptance. I accept them completely, and I will never support them in their self-destructive behaviors, knowing that ideology is far more plastic and changeable (and reversible) than are the PERMANENT changes being inflicted upon their bodies.