Neither.

However I watched the 1st episode of the new George Michael documentary last night and the inability to accept that a promiscuous lifestyle isn't causes a lot of their problems is really not ok. It's not ok to blame everyone else because you decided to openly wank in a public toilet and got caught. We had the same thing with monkey pox as well. "Oh why did I get super herpes after jumping on a pig pile of 15 other guys after Pride? Must be systematic discrimination and society both not interfering in my personal life but also trying to tell me what to do."