Incels carry around this manifesto that they unpack spontainiously for anyone and everyone. It involves height and facial symmetry and how men who dont possess features aligned with the golden ratio arent going to be able to attract females. It's seems depressing and exhausting. If you dont find yourself doing something like that, youre not an incel, regardless of sexual experience. Also theyre weird about women. They seem less concerned with passing the time with someone they like doing something fun than the status they get from performing the act. Sex is a form of validation for them rather than a pasttime or way to be in a loving relationship.