Are you married? Do you have children?

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[–]Vulptex 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

I was pointing it out because you said a woman is too much to handle. It wouldn't be if she didn't expect you to do everything for her.

[–]Node 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Not too much to handle. More that the amount and degree of maintenance required can be more than it's worth. Certainly not always the case, but it's not exactly rare either.

Don't know what kind of pets you've had, but say you got one of those dogs that needs hours of physical interaction everyday, or it goes nuts. You may or may not think it's worth the energy, depending on where you are in your life, your interests, and all that. What if it began biting you?

So it's less her expecting you to do everything, and more about some of them needing more care and handling than it's worth.

On a separate note, if you're ever in the market for a low maintenance pet that's cool and amazing, look into tarantulas.

[–]Vulptex 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

The reason so many of them need so much is because most women are so spoiled in this society. Men are taught not to expect things and to sacrifice their own good for others', especially women. Women are taught that they are entitled to being happy and comfortable 24/7, and that everyone else (especially men) is obligated to coddle them to that state.

I think if anything women are naturally more selfless because they get an internal reward for doing good that men don't. But then we teach children from a young age that boys are troublemakers who should shut up and girls are innocent and special and the world revolves around them.

[–]Node 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Men are taught not to expect things and to sacrifice their own good for others', especially women.

Men are exposed to and taught a variety of skills, about cultural practices, and theories about how the world works. I think your idea that men (women, and children) are universally taught just one way to be is too rigid.

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's pretty standard across many different cultures, and a lot of people think it's a human instinct recognizing male expendability.