To stir the pot means to make unnecessary trouble, to agitate, to provoke. Someone who will stir the pot will often cause squabbles between others involved in an endeavor. He may stir the pot to destroy a project, to cause the project to turn out in his favor, or simply because he enjoys making trouble.

ENFPs do sometimes stir the pot, simply for the fun of seeing how things turn out. They like to really shake things up since they become bored so easily. ... ENFPs don't intend to really hurt anyone, they just want to shake things up a bit and put a little more spice into a situation.

You didn't use a poor choice of words. It's just that opinions of the meaning of "stir the pot" have been skewed towards negative meanings. Don't take unfounded opinions all that seriously, although it's good to be aware they exist, in the same way you'd want to be aware if, for example, most of your society begin believing they should wear masks for no legitimate reason they can articulate.

Try this more accurate definition, and check out the short article.

Deliberately provocative, yes, but not necessarily maliciously. Picture a pot of soup. A lot of ingredients have settled to the bottom, out of sight, until stirred. Metaphorically, a lot of issues/resentments/obligations can drop out of sight when nobody mentions them. One can “stir the pot” to bring issues to the surface, sometimes with malice, but sometimes merely to create awareness and [a]ffect change.

https://coworkinginsights.com/stir-the-pot/