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[–]Bigs 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I'm a man :)

Yes, it was abuse. Ironically feminists pushed for mental abuse to be included in 'domestic violence' and rapidly backtracked later...

And yes, had some physical abuse too. Ended up sleeping in the spare room after a threat to pour boiling water in my mouth to stop me snoring. I also consider it abuse, if not kidnapping, that she said if I left I wouldn't see my daughter. She did indeed block access but my baby is a grown woman now and we talk nearly every day on Whatsapp, and you know what? Nothing much has changed with the ex!

Over the last few weeks we've been talking, as we both view the plandemic as a farce and we are both very wary and aware of the serious risks with the vaccines. So for the first time in 20 years or so we have also been chatting on whatsapp - until the other day. Won't bore you with the details but she basically implied I was lying about something, something easily proven and which I already proved to our daughter 3 or 4 years ago and I'm sure they must have talked about. I found myself thinking through how best to try and prove it true, how I would present it... and stopped.

Nope. Not playing that game with that bitch no more, so just sent a thumbs up and haven't replied since. I don't need that shit in my life

Nor do you. x

[–]Ash[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Your situation is ugly and you should be very careful dealing with this unstable person. She already managed to keep you away from your daughter in the past. I'm glad your ex didn't prevent you from having a relationship with your daughter today. She believes you, you proved her some years ago! Why would you risk it inviting Crazy back to your life? You already know that she's messing with you starting with yourself: I found myself thinking through how best to try and prove it true, how I would present it. !Brainwashed! That's so much better: I found myself thinking through how best to try and prove it true, how I would present it... and stopped. Nope. Not playing that game with that bitch no more.

You see, so much better!

Why going back to that? You sorted it out with your daughter. Do you consider going back to her, after she doesn't hold any power over you anymore? Stockholm? There's much more at hand I don't know about and it's not really my business asking you.

[–]Bigs 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Well as said I just sent a thumbs up and quit talking to her. She's got the hint and after sending me a pic about some honey she will give our daughter she's stopped too.

I also realized, if I'm brutally honest with myself, that part of my willingness to talk to her was the fun of rubbing her nose in the fact I've been very happily married for 16 years to a sweet Asian babe, having moved to Asia, where i'm living my dreams. I have the fully tricked-out 4x4 truck and the jungles and terrain to explore I've always dreamed of, the dirt bike, the sporty Subaru and now the sailing yacht I've been after for more years than I remember, all parked in the garden of the lovely detached house in a nice area, where I make my living as a part-time writer with zero debt beyond the mortgage, which is ridiculously low.

In short, I've made my wildest dreams come true. In the meantime my ex is still living in the same council-house, still doing the same bar work and still single as we both head into our mid 50s. The only thing we still have in common is our daughter, disgust as the covid farce and 'hesitancy' over mRNA 'vaccines'.

The only thing missing from my life was my daughter, but I never quite trying and 6 years ago managed to get in touch, when she turned 18. She's even more beautiful that her mother (was. Ha!) and smart, with a little encouragement and some daddy help she got into university and grabbed a degree in design. Right now she's talking to me almost every day as she goes through decisions etc. She apologized the other say and said she uses me like a 'Dear diary' that answers with good advice.

Answered with 'No worries' but can't even express how happy that made me, and was glad she couldn't see my tears. :)

But yeah you're right, continuing to talk with the mother is not a healthy place - and the nose rubbing has been done, so no need to continue lol

:P

[–]Ash[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm not in a good place right now but will come back to you. I enjoy your point of view and would like to give you my take, from my female perspective. The last days/weekend were hell and I think that it's unfair responding to you when I'm not well. With all the things going on here, my relationship drama, me having a meltdown, I'm happy to have found find a saidit friend.