Well as said I just sent a thumbs up and quit talking to her. She's got the hint and after sending me a pic about some honey she will give our daughter she's stopped too.

I also realized, if I'm brutally honest with myself, that part of my willingness to talk to her was the fun of rubbing her nose in the fact I've been very happily married for 16 years to a sweet Asian babe, having moved to Asia, where i'm living my dreams. I have the fully tricked-out 4x4 truck and the jungles and terrain to explore I've always dreamed of, the dirt bike, the sporty Subaru and now the sailing yacht I've been after for more years than I remember, all parked in the garden of the lovely detached house in a nice area, where I make my living as a part-time writer with zero debt beyond the mortgage, which is ridiculously low.

In short, I've made my wildest dreams come true. In the meantime my ex is still living in the same council-house, still doing the same bar work and still single as we both head into our mid 50s. The only thing we still have in common is our daughter, disgust as the covid farce and 'hesitancy' over mRNA 'vaccines'.

The only thing missing from my life was my daughter, but I never quite trying and 6 years ago managed to get in touch, when she turned 18. She's even more beautiful that her mother (was. Ha!) and smart, with a little encouragement and some daddy help she got into university and grabbed a degree in design. Right now she's talking to me almost every day as she goes through decisions etc. She apologized the other say and said she uses me like a 'Dear diary' that answers with good advice.

Answered with 'No worries' but can't even express how happy that made me, and was glad she couldn't see my tears. :)

But yeah you're right, continuing to talk with the mother is not a healthy place - and the nose rubbing has been done, so no need to continue lol

:P