How the fuck do i stop being like this? These past few days i've done nothing but scroll and watch youtube videos. I cant be alone with my thoughts anymore.

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[–]Node 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (11 children)

These past few days i've done nothing but scroll and watch youtube videos. I can't be alone with my thoughts anymore.

It's unclear what you're asking, or what's going on. It sounds like you might be stressed, or worrying about something? You'll have to say more to be clear.

Meantime, do something to relax and interrupt your thought cascade.

  • Have some tea, but no caffeine after mid afternoon.
  • Get some exercise, like going for walk, a run, or working out.
  • Do physical work to make yourself tired so you'll fall asleep easier before it gets too late.
  • Read a book instead of turning the computer on.
  • Make sure you're drinking enough water.

If you're using alcohol, pot, or some other drug, stop doing that for a few days. Put it in a difficult to reach place so you would have to go out of your way to get it.

[–]johnnybravo[S] 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (9 children)

Thanks for replying, node. What's going on is online classes. I am not a studious person, but it feels nice when I learn something new. In online classes I understand nothing. And I feel very guilty when I don't study for my subjects. I will pass just like everyone else because exams are online and conducted through google forms so it's very easy to cheat. But the guilt of not deserving it weighs down on my soul.

There's some solid advice there, I appreciate it. Going to start working out from today. (I remember when Corona began, I thought to myself 'hey I have lots of time now, I'm going to work out hard and walk out of my house completely ripped'. Funny how that turned out). I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs btw.

The problem I seem to have is that I constantly live in my head. Daydreaming, thinking, remembering, never living in the moment, unable to concentrate on anything. I wonder if there is some solution to this problem. Tried quitting computer/mobile, with little success.

[–]jet199 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Frankly reading some non fiction books will be better for your attention span and state of mind rather than hunting for new sensation on the internet.

[–]wristaction 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This. It's like physical therapy for an atrophied attention span.

[–]Node 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

The problem I seem to have is that I constantly live in my head.

The solution to that would be to start spending time living in your body. If it's hard to start a whole exercise routine, start small. For example, do 10 pushups per day at first. Then increase gradually. The physical activity would probably make your studying go easier too.

If it helps, set an alarm on your phone, or put up a reminder on a paper note. Find whatever works for you to actually end up doing the physical activity. Keep in mind that after about a month of doing it regularly, you're literally going to feel physically better...

[–]wristaction 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've taken to putting postits up on my monitor of actual computing business I ought to be doing. These range from image editing, learning a piece of software that is not a web browser, looking up bits of information I actually need IRL and so forth. Middling success. Mostly I set the bar at zero internet and this results in 20% less internet. I had more consistent success with removing the chair from the desk to the piano every time I left the computer. About half the time I'd actually sit at the piano and sort of practice that a bit.

Internet addiction sucks.

[–]Node 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ah, just one more comment reply to make and then I swear I'm going outside. It's hard to stop drinking from the firehose sometimes.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Do not let guilt weigh down on your soul. There is a solution to this problem, but as I said, it requires constant effort, and most people balk at the notion that the solution to this problem might radically change how they look at themselves, and the world. Because that is where all this is coming from. A subjective view of the self, and a subjective view of the world.

[–]Comatoast 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Are you having a hard time figuring out a study structure with it? Or just not feeling motivated because of how it's laid out?

[–]johnnybravo[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I "attend" my online classes by leaving them on in the background. They are too monotonous and I don't understand a thing. Then I feel no motivation to study.

[–]Comatoast 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This is advice from a medicated, daydreaming, innattentive serial procrastinator:

Collegeruled spiralbound notebooks, the three thick ones--get one for each class. Since you're hitting the end of the semester, you could probably deal with the regular ones.

Whether it's Zoom lectures or just pre-recorded bullshit, pretend you're on camera while you're watching it. You're obviously lying to yourself, but dismiss that. Now you're being held accountable, and have to at least look like you're paying attention (even if you're hyperfocused on the shape of a suddenly very interesting speck of dust on your computer screen).

Write notes. Just write them. It fucking sucks, but it's imperative. I have damn near novels worth of notes that I've taken. Mix it up with different pens of different colors, and attempt to make it exciting.. because it's not exciting. I have a thing with office supplies though that might not translate over for other people. Draw things you need to understand and label them with them, do whatever. If you have instruction materials that are pausible, take advantage of that. If all of your shit is mostly reading chapters, I'm sorry from the bottom of my heart. I've thrown myself around in a tantrum of despair over this because of how soul destroyingly boring it is (note: do not let others see you do this. Throw your grown ass adult boredom hissy alone and never admit to it. It's yours alone to treasure).

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Good advice, Node. He needs to interrupt that thought-cascade with some actual living.

Doing physical work to go to sleep better is such great advice. It solved my "insomnia" issue earlier last year.