Eh I’d argue western men are just bigger victims of toxic masculinity than the rest of the world. American men act much more normal or in your words, effeminate, in private with their families and partner.

I prefer a man who has good fashion sense and hygiene, who shows emotion, and who stays fit and active, which is probably why I’ve mostly dated non-Americans, they’re definitely allowed to express themselves more and take care of themselves growing up and are more well-rounded than an American man who can’t cook, dress attractively, keep a clean home, or cry in front of others.

I know WAY too many frustrated American men reaching 30 who don’t understand why women don’t want them despite “having a job/car/house” when it’s obvious they can’t take care of themselves( fat, dirty, think sarcasm is a personality trait) and are basically children.