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[–]yayblueberries 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I have no social life at all except for the lady I'm renting a room from talking to me and inviting me to eat pizza with her. People I've hung out with in the past and friends won't even leave their houses. I can't get anybody to go on a nature walk, either. I'm talking nice wide trail perfect for social distancing if they are super concerned. So I just gave up completely.

Interestingly, that type of distancing has made me realize I don't want to really hang out with most of these people if the quarantine ever ends.

[–]PencilPusher55[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes! Isn't it strange? I take it personally, to be honest. I find it so odd that friends will not even leave their homes to just go on a walk around town or meet up somewhere. "Sorry, brah! Quarantine!".

[–]yayblueberries 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do to, to a degree, because the people I know are making themselves utterly miserable and then they sit online and try to take it out on me and their other friends. Sitting at home all the time isolating oneself is totally unhealthy in its own way. I at least get out every day to take a long nature walk or a hike and that relives a lot of stress, but I am definitely lonely because I don't even have the passive socializing that I like to do - sitting in a bar, sitting in a coffeeshop, going to see bands play, etc.

And then I see neighbors around this place and the lady I rent from getting visitors who are just smart about it. Makes me wonder if maybe I have been friends with people who just don't want to bother, it was sort of like pulling teeth before the pandemic.

[–]medium_tomato 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Mostly negatively, but it has also helped foster some friendships that I didn't expect. I now have video chats and online scheduled events with people who were previously distant acquaintances. Meeting new people has gone down to zero, but I'm glad I can now focus more of my energy to better get to know people I already had.

[–]invertebruh 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I very much prefer that alone in a crowd feeling so while I don't care that I don't have anyone to hang out with, I really miss being able to take advantage of the fact that I live in a big city. Normally there's a ton of really cheap shows where you could see local bands, or even bigger ones that would play small venues for like 20$ a ticket. I miss being able to hop on the metro and just chill at the beach for a few hours. Or spend all day at the zoo drawing the animals. Or catch a free stand-up show where people are testing material. Or just hanging out downtown after dark soaking up that very specific energy that you can't get anywhere else.

[–]Locke 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bold move to assume I had a social life to begin with.

I already didn't go out much. I prefer it that way, but have been making myself get out a little more because I know it's good for me. I was just starting to get into a better routine when COVID started. Now I'm getting used to a new routine and finding ways to socialize again.

[–]moody_ape 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

it hasn't, i'm a loner and a loser and i'm ok with it.