Getting some peak trans in the morning on the endo thread of reddt. This user really wants to say that *not only women get endometriosis and of course invade our outlet. F* off! Asks the mods if "this is an inclusive space" and says that it's a waste of time to debate the meaning of "woman". I will never ever call myself a uterus-owner! You can get all the f*ckin way out of here!

While there are cases when bisexual people are hated for being bisexual, which is more rare, and it is called biphobia.

I wouldn't say that biphobia is rarer; more that, because it tends to operate in a rather different way than homophobia, it's often less noticeable.

Biphobia is rooted in the notion that bisexuality doesn't really exist: that it's not actually a sexual orientation at all. Which causes bisexuals to be largely ignored/invisible (since, hey, we don't exist!), or-- when we do register-- treated dismissively (as defective straight/gay people, basically: phonies, weaklings, traitors, degenerates, etc.).

Homosexuality, by contrast, is generally perceived as a sexual orientation; unfortunately, in all too many people's eyes, it's a BAD one. So while LG people have the benefit of being seen as actually existing, this also means that they're targeted for discrimination and persecution in a way bisexuals typically are not, at least as bisexuals (in order to be targeted, you really must exist first).

Another way biphobia differs from homophobia is that it doesn't just come from heterosexuals; there's quite a bit of it among gay people, too. So (unlike the LG) we can't find refuge from it in LGB spaces.

The other main distinction is that (again, unlike gay people) we're often expected to be sexually-available to EVERYBODY. Cuz we aren't a sexual orientation, you know; we're just attracted to all and sundry, indifferent to people's sex, or mega-slutty. This also leads to the sense that, since we are attracted to the opposite sex, there's "no excuse" for us acting on our same-sex attraction; after all, we could refrain without having to be celibate, so why don't we? Or, in other words, while gay people "can't help it", bisexuals can... and so we SHOULD (at least according to those with a horror of homoeroticism).

Which isn't to say that we "have it worse" or anything. Just that biphobia has its own special ways of being shitty.

Coming out was/is a shitshow for me. When I came out to my mom, I was having an anxiety attack (unrelated to coming out) and she kinda forced it out of me and made me feel like shit for being gay. Just like you, I don’t ‘look gay’ so everyone just assumes I’m straight and are surprised when I say I’m a lesbian. It really annoying to have to come out all the time. As for celebrities, I’m sort of jealous of them. God forbid I speak to a male friend, now I am suddenly straight or a liar. But unlike the average person, their coming out no matter how vague or low effort, automatically admits them to the rainbow social club. It is far more easy to remember that Sarah Paulson is a raging lesbo than Becky down the street. Additionally, I think that they use the lack of labels to not be pressed on an issue that may or may not be for attention, so they are free to do whatever they please (sexually and romantically) and have the ‘queer’ safety net.

Pretty funny how the government can close loads of business because of the danger of one sickness, but seems to have difficulties to even do something about one dangerous business who pollute and put us all at risk of all sort of sickness.

To me, coming out was me letting everyone know I only liked girls so they wouldn't expect me to ever get a boyfriend and to marry him and have his babies. I was never confused nor conflicted about my sexuality... I was actually confused about why so many women liked men. Still doesn't make sense to me.