I've come across exactly two people ever coming here that made me think, "wow, this place is a lot better than Reddit or Voat".
I now see neither of those people here anymore.

You're no exception, but you did get a little closer than most would.
See, you noticed a symptom but conflated it with the disease. What was really happening was groups like feminists (okay, SJWs in general) began being used like the useful idiots they are to corner people willing to say what's true. They pushed these people in to places like TheRedPill, pizzagate, conspiracy, kotakuinaction and a few more. Now, not all of these groups are flawless; in fact, that's actually the entire point. They do indeed have glaring faults and that's what made boxing "undesirables" in to them advantageous.
People as described got walled off slowly from the rest of Reddit so they'd herd themselves in to the mentioned subs. In so doing, they found people like themselves, but they also took the bait. The point was to lock them in and slowly start quarantining them and eventually banning them, all so they'd stay away from the target audience: the ones that would still vote for Biden (no, there's a lot more to this, but why not add a little comedy in here and there?). Remember when Reddit started threatening people that try avoid bans?...

You noticed another aspect in addition to the ones I mentioned before: Feminists DETEST men and they hate that more youthful women are more valuable than them so they do everything in their power to devalue said women. Historically, this has meant clamoring for tighter restrictions on age of consent, like statutory rape (which, I'll admit that there's a lot more to it than this and that we've progressed as a species, morality, yadda yadda. I don't disagree there), which is used widely to destroy young mens' lives (check the history; don't take my word for it), doing a bunch of cringey shit to make themselves look younger (shorter hair, vibrant colors, showing more cleavage, which all demoralizes women of all ages) and gate keeping young women having children. To explain that last one a little further, bitter old feminists have convinced young women that they don't want children, got all of their daughters birth control and insisted abortions are free and access is plentiful.
In short, these feminists were exploited to do the bidding of the pricks that want to ensure the mating pool is tainted, that tensions arise and corrode relations between sexes (destroying peer bonding). These demoralized young men, which were targeted to ensure certain people stay in office, were used to continue slow roll outs of increased taxes and foreign aid and all of that fun stuff.

I could break down the other ones, like how men aren't supposed to develop sexual strategies, otherwise they'll find out how to build testosterone, avoid depression (and therefore pharmaceuticals), they'll find out how to get more resources (and have more partners; meaning more babies!), they'll stop playing in to the whole wage slavery bullshit because young men would become entrapaneurs again (understanding how to develop sexual straegies translates to developing financial strategies, ie. success = success and the goyim mustn't know) and, finally, they'll stop doom-fapping all of the time, which just plays in to the feedback loop. Naturally, they were escorted to r/TRP
Yet again, feminists and their brigade of simps marched down Reddit Avenue and shrieked down the men that always fucked the girl they liked (or, in reality, who just probably never gave them any time of day...) for daring to not submit to the new matriarchal order. But, that's not all. There are plenty of other entities that can't afford men to organize and find success in groups, especially when they start sharing successful strategies. There's incentive all across the board from this, from the financial industry to the entertainment industry. More competent and resourceful men means more competition, hence Feminism never being organized by women...

Aside from all of that, as I said, you were on the right track. The real pitfall of the Reddit system is the propensity for farming for consensus. It's a great social tool. Vanity distracts from the allure of consensus, so they assign everyone an identity, upon which veracity hinges, and insist they "vote" (which is fake... just like in real life) on what they enjoy the most. Unfortunately, all this does is solidify what the cattle learn vicariously, so they never bother to deviate, which just cements both sides that we've just described.

So, yeah, the whole Reddit thing is just a psychological operation that's replacing media. These systems use a more interactive feedback loop than the Legacy Media, which was its progenitor... which, you guessed it, is entirely sponsored by the CIA and their bundle of homosexual think tanks.

The good news is that some of /ourguys/ hang out with us in these places. Good luck spotting them though.